Dear Reader, In a recent coaching session, a client told me something simple and surprisingly powerful. She’s decided to take one day off each month. Not for errands. Not for appointments. Not to “catch up on life.” Just for her. Her goals? ✅ Better mental health ✅ A real break (not a half-break while checking email) ✅ Modeling healthy leadership for her team ✅ Building trust that things can get done in her absence ✅ Letting go of the small frustrations that quietly pile up over time And my...
27 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, This week in a conversation with one of my clients, we talked about something deceptively simple: What would it look like to just read the lines... instead of reading between them? Specifically when it comes to written communication - Slack, Teams, email, texts. Because here’s what happens all day long at work: “Can you send that when you get a chance.” And our brain goes: “They’re annoyed. I’m late. They’re losing confidence in me. I'm not good enough.” And yet none of what we...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, A leader I work with shared a moment with me that was a true breakthrough. Two members of her team ran into a problem that needed solving. Historically, this would have been her cue to:➡️ Step in.➡️ Clarify.➡️ Translate.➡️ Smooth things over.➡️ Quietly absorb the stress so everyone else could move on. Instead, she tried something new. ✅ She listened.✅ She asked a few thoughtful questions.✅ She offered a couple of options. ✅ And then - brace yourself - she did nothing. No...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, I’m successful. I’m grateful. And still... I’m tired. Not "I need a nap" tired. More like "I rested all weekend and somehow I'm still tired" tired. I hear this from clients all the time, and when I do, I feel like somehow, many of us absorbed this unspoken rule: If you’re doing well, you don’t really get to be exhausted. If you’re tired, you must be ungrateful. Or dramatic. Or doing something wrong. So instead, we normalize pushing through. Functioning beautifully. Holding it all...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, People say this to me more often than you might expect: “You’re so confident.” And I always appreciate it. Truly. But it also makes me smile a little, because confidence is only part of the story. What people don’t see is the internal commentary. The quiet second-guessing. The mental replay of a conversation once it’s already over. From the outside, things can look calm and steady. On the inside, there can be a lot of thinking happening. I see this all the time with...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, For a long time, I told myself I’d feel better when I got the next promotion. More settled. More confident. More relieved. And then I got it. And it felt great! For a hot second. Pretty quickly, what showed up instead was more pressure. More expectations. More visibility. A quieter but heavier sense of don’t mess this up. That’s when I realized how convincing the myth of “I’ll feel better when…” really is. We attach relief to milestones:➡️ When the project wraps.➡️ When things...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, There’s a lot of leadership advice about doing more. More visibility. More decisiveness. More confidence. More output. And yet some of the most powerful leadership moments I see in my coaching work are invisible. They don’t show up in dashboards. They aren’t captured in performance reviews. They don’t come with applause. But they do change everything. The invisible work looks something like this: ✅ Pausing before responding instead of reacting ✅ Letting someone struggle a little...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, A client recently shared how an unexpected situation completely rearranged his plans for the week. Everything he’d mapped out - meetings, deadlines, personal goals - were forced out the window. We talked about what it means to adapt. Because no matter how color-coded our calendars are or how beautifully planned our week looks on Sunday night, life isn’t always on the same page with our schedule. If you’ve ever had a day (or week) that didn’t go as planned, try asking yourself:...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, January can feel like a list of things you “should” do. What if we erased our "shoulds" and used January as a blank canvas instead? The new year doesn’t need to come with pressure or perfection. I’m using January as a blank slate myself. I've decided to explorie small experiments both personally and professionally, noticing what feels good, and seeing what sticks. It’s an invitation for all of us to do the same. Start small: a new morning ritual, a tiny shift in your routine, or...
5 months ago • 1 min read