Dear Reader, I’m successful. I’m grateful. And still... I’m tired. Not "I need a nap" tired. More like "I rested all weekend and somehow I'm still tired" tired. I hear this from clients all the time, and when I do, I feel like somehow, many of us absorbed this unspoken rule: If you’re doing well, you don’t really get to be exhausted. If you’re tired, you must be ungrateful. Or dramatic. Or doing something wrong. So instead, we normalize pushing through. Functioning beautifully. Holding it all...
24 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, People say this to me more often than you might expect: “You’re so confident.” And I always appreciate it. Truly. But it also makes me smile a little, because confidence is only part of the story. What people don’t see is the internal commentary. The quiet second-guessing. The mental replay of a conversation once it’s already over. From the outside, things can look calm and steady. On the inside, there can be a lot of thinking happening. I see this all the time with...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, For a long time, I told myself I’d feel better when I got the next promotion. More settled. More confident. More relieved. And then I got it. And it felt great! For a hot second. Pretty quickly, what showed up instead was more pressure. More expectations. More visibility. A quieter but heavier sense of don’t mess this up. That’s when I realized how convincing the myth of “I’ll feel better when…” really is. We attach relief to milestones:➡️ When the project wraps.➡️ When things...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, There’s a lot of leadership advice about doing more. More visibility. More decisiveness. More confidence. More output. And yet some of the most powerful leadership moments I see in my coaching work are invisible. They don’t show up in dashboards. They aren’t captured in performance reviews. They don’t come with applause. But they do change everything. The invisible work looks something like this: ✅ Pausing before responding instead of reacting ✅ Letting someone struggle a little...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, A client recently shared how an unexpected situation completely rearranged his plans for the week. Everything he’d mapped out - meetings, deadlines, personal goals - were forced out the window. We talked about what it means to adapt. Because no matter how color-coded our calendars are or how beautifully planned our week looks on Sunday night, life isn’t always on the same page with our schedule. If you’ve ever had a day (or week) that didn’t go as planned, try asking yourself:...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, January can feel like a list of things you “should” do. What if we erased our "shoulds" and used January as a blank canvas instead? The new year doesn’t need to come with pressure or perfection. I’m using January as a blank slate myself. I've decided to explorie small experiments both personally and professionally, noticing what feels good, and seeing what sticks. It’s an invitation for all of us to do the same. Start small: a new morning ritual, a tiny shift in your routine, or...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, This time of year always feels like a pause between chapters, with one story winding down, another about to begin. Whether you’re celebrating, resting, or simply trying to keep the Wi-Fi strong enough for all the family that’s visiting, I hope you find a moment of quiet in the in-between. You don’t have to plan, produce, or perfect anything right now. Just breathe. Reflect. Maybe even do nothing at all (cookies and couch totally count). Here’s to softness, space, and starting the...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, I recently had a conversation with a client who said something I hear a lot: “I don’t really like the spotlight. I’d rather let the work speak for itself.” He mentioned that when he doesn't know how to solve a business problem on his own, he likes to get a group of subject matter experts together to explore various solutions. Not because it's on his to-do list, but because he sees a need and wants to help. (The kind of thing that doesn’t necessarily show up in performance reviews...
4 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, This time of year, gratitude posts start flooding our feeds... All sunshine, family photos, and pumpkin pie emojis. And while I am deeply grateful for the big things, like health, family, and purpose, I’m also grateful for the small, real ones that don’t make it to Instagram. This year, I’m grateful for: ☕ The coffee that gets me through getting my kid on the school bus before 6:45 a.m. every weekday. 😴 The rare mornings when I actually get to finish that coffee while it’s still...
5 months ago • 1 min read